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Where's The Remote???
Contributed by: Kevin Platts   on 2/22/2007

I want all of you to do a little exercise with me. Close your eyes for a moment and think back to your childhood. Think back to a time where you were sitting in the living room watching some television. Now, name for me one television program you watched as a child that involved a family. Now it can't be the Jetson's or any other animated program. It has to be a program that involved real people as the family members.

Now, fast forward a little bit and think of a time you can recall vividly from your teenage years where you were out in public with your family. Did your family embarrass you or were you proud of them?

Now, look at your adult years. Think about a time when you were either wooing someone or being wooed by someone. Did you ever get to the point where you thought you might actually want to spend the rest of your life with this person? Did you go through with these thoughts or did you back away? Some of us go throught with these thoughts, while others run away from these relationships. Why?

I have a theory. This is based on many years of research while conducting interviews of people from varied backgrounds. Here's what I believe - we are what we watch on television. This may sound strange, but if you really think about it for a minute, you will see there is some validity to my beliefs. The facts as I see them are that when we are young children and we watch TV we begin to form opinions on what "normal" is. When we watch Little House On The Prairie, which I assume a number of you selected in the exercise earlier (or The Brady Bunch), we begin to get a picture of what normal relationships within a family are. As we grow older, these beliefs about families become ingrained in our subconscious.

When we reach an age where we begin dating, we begin to look for a mate based on our beliefs about who we need to be with in order to achieve what we perceive is the perfect family. If we are attracted to someone and they meet all the demands of our checklist, then we grow closer to them and will more than likely either ask them to or agree to marry them.

If we begin to detect this other person doesn't meet the requirements to help achieve our familial ideals, then we will more than likely not attempt to get closer to them or will stay with them, but never actually marry them or start a family with them. If we stay with them, we are merely allowing ourselves to remain in a "holding pattern" and are waiting for someone "more perfect" to come along. Once Mr. or Ms. Perfect does come along, we will abandon our relationship and immediately find ourselves try to initiate a relationship with Mr. or Ms. Perfect.

In other words, we live life like we are simply using a remote control. We just keep "flipping" until we find a program we like. We decide what program we want to watch based on the things from our childhood that appeared to be "nice" and continue to spend the rest of our life looking for these "nice things."

To Be Continued.......

To read more of my thoughts, please visit my blog at: www.advice-smoke-and-mirrors.blogspot.com


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Kevin Platts

Parker , CO

Kevin Platts has posted 178 blog entries and 5 comments since joining on 5/16/2006. Kevin Platts's average blog rating is 4.8.
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