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Shadows of Our Fathers - Part III
Contributed by: Kevin Platts   on 6/26/2007

So, we are all smart enough to sit down and figure out that for the most part, we are who we are primarily because of who our parents were. For the most part, if our parents were good people, we are good people. If our parents we bad people, then there is a greater chance we will be bad people. This isn't across the board. Obviously, my parents weren't the best people, but I think I am alright.

We all have choices to make in our lives. Unfortunately, most people don't take the time to evaluate the situation, therefore, they simply follow the path their parents laid out for them. If we actually evaluate who we are and who we can be, then take the appropriate steps to reach our goals, we all have the power to be what we want rather than merely accepting the destiny our parents laid out for us.

Don't allow the long shadow of your parents to hang over your entire life. Certainly, you need to learn from your parents. If they showed you good things, then emulate those things so you are also doing good. However, if they showed you bad things, don't simply accept them. Identify them as bad things and do everything in your power to eliminate those things from your life.

When I was a young man, much like my parents, I started to drink. I never really got into trouble because of the drinking, but I definitely had a moment of clarity where I realized I was well on my way to being just like my parents. I decided at that very moment that I had a wife and a young daughter and that I wasn't going to do to them what my parents did to me. This resulted in me cutting drinking out of my life. I am not opposed to people drinking, but at that point in my life, I realized it wasn't the smartest thing for me to be involved in. This resulted in me putting my family first and resulted in three children having a father who wasn't abusive like my parents were to me.

As I have said many times, I am not perfect. I simply do the best I can to be the best father possible. I know I am going to make mistakes; however, simply eliminating drinking from my life ensures the mistakes I make are my own and aren't caused by drinking.

I ask each of you to look at where you are in life and honestly assess what your good and bad tendencies are. If you do an honest assessment, I am sure you will begin to understand the positive and negative influences your parents had on you. I just ask that once you do this assessment, you make an honest effort to enhance the positives in your life and to eliminate the negatives. Trust me, life is much better when you aren't living in the shadows!

To read my other thoughts, please visit my blog at: www.advice-smoke-and-mirrors.blogspot.com


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Kevin Platts

Parker , CO

Kevin Platts has posted 178 blog entries and 5 comments since joining on 5/16/2006. Kevin Platts's average blog rating is 4.8.
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