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Someone told me that I should write a book about helping your sister handle her grief. As my profile states her husband was killed in an accident in January. We have been struggling to understand and to get through the days for the last six months. My blog is just about grief and family. Sounds pretty simple huh? I wish it was.

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Heaven has Nevaeh
Contributed by: Susanne Sanstra   on 9/26/2007

I am troubled as anyone would be when you read about a three year old little girl that has been killed. But the story of Nevaeh (Heaven spelled backwards) Gallegos bothers me to my core.

As a mother I think it is part of my very nature to protect my children at all costs. I have not been put in the position to have to protect them in that way but I have no doubt in my mind that if it was life threatening for them, I would be brutal. My animal instinct would be to their benefit at any cost.

So what happened here? In case you haven't read the story, Nevaeh's mother called 911 Friday afternoon and told them that a red headed white man had kidnapped her baby. Not long after the amber alert her story fell apart.

Really what happened was the mom's boyfriend snapped and killed this baby. After coming home to her dead baby, the mom decided to save the boyfriend and devised a nice little story to his benefit. He took the baby and stuffed her in a white plastic bag and then put her in a duffel bag and he left her by a ravine.

Now if that all doesn't raise your hackles listen to this part. The boyfriend was a registered sex offender.

In the past three years, he has abused one child, was involved in the sex assault of a second. Was arrested for failing to register as a sex offender and got a misdemeanor for possession of drug paraphernalia.

The last mother that decided to let this guy baby-sit, came home to her son saying he tried to choke the boy because he was mad! He also hooked him up on the wall with a tie and tied his legs together.

Here is the big one, are you ready?

When Nevaeh was two, he was investigated for sexually assaulting her.

Now my question is WHAT THE #%*& ???

How do you ever let someone like this into your life when you are a mother? Where is her animal instinct to protect her child? How could she choose this person to be responsible for her baby? I am afraid that it proves one sad fact. As women is our natural instinct to protect our children overridden by our instincts to keep a man?

It seems to happen fairly regularly. The children go by the wayside, in many ways, so the mom's can keep a relationship. You hear stories of neglect, abuse, even abandonment and when the story comes out it seems it could have all been avoided if the mother simply chose the child over the man.

So is that the ladder of our natural instinct? Protect our children at all cost unless it's a question of man or child and then the man simply wins out. That makes me very sad. I hope that I am never in the position to choose, but if I am Hubby watch out, you are the one I am throwing to the wolves.



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Submitted By: Susanne Sanstra
posted on 9/29/2007 @ 7:25:34 PM
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I have not been through nearly as much as Niveah was and she only lived three short years. I appreciate your comments always Mick but I am only trying to get people to think about protecting those that can't protect themselves.
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Submitted By: Michael Rule
posted on 9/28/2007 @ 4:21:58 PM
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The toughest temptation to avoid is that which condemns before the verdict has been reached. I know you have been thru a lot, but I cringe at your rush to judgement. Nevertheless, your writing is very provacitive(sp?), as it is based on truth.
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Susanne Sanstra

Larkspur , CO

Susanne Sanstra has posted 20 blog entries and 15 comments since joining on 8/4/2006. Susanne Sanstra 's average blog rating is 4.98.
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