Are you disappointed that the men you date seem to expect sex so early on? Worse yet, have you become OK with that? Do you feel that men aren't doing enough to "pursue" you? Do you find yourself being the giver in the relationship without reciprocation?

If any of this sounds familiar there is a reason and it may surprise you to know it's not all the guy's fault! Men are like children in that they will always do whatever they can get away with - when you let them.

The truth is that women who are willing to be over accommodating or do anything to secure a relationship are not only not going to get the relationship they want, but they are setting the standard and lowering the bar for men - and it effects all women who date, especially those who seek more than a superficial or shallow relationship.

Women need to realize that we are not competing against each other and drop the attitude that if you don't sleep with your date soon then someone else will. It sets the standard for what men expect when dating and if you're looking for a lasting relationship it's not helping you or anyone else in the long run.

If you are looking to find the man of your dreams you must first get realistic; he doesn't exist. You are not going to find a perfect man and you are not perfect either, nor should you try to pretend to be. Wouldn't you like to find a man to love you for who you really are instead of the woman he wants you to be? It's impossible to keep up a false image forever, so when he realizes you're not the way you were trying to be for him, guess what? - Relationship over!

Instead be yourself, and it helps if you actually like yourself! Being secure and confident about whom you are attracts the man you really want, and you don't have to sacrifice your integrity in the process. Before you know it he'll be chasing you!

It's a biological fact that men need to pursue a woman in order to believe she is worth catching. If he gets the prize too early and he doesn't feel like he had to do very much to earn it, then why would he make an effort to do or be more?

Remember what Grandma told you, "Why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?" Those were wise word ladies and they still apply. Men haven't changed that much since Grandma's day, but women have! If we set higher standards like Grandma did, it makes sense that you'll end up with a better man.

You teach men how to treat you and you set the standard from the very beginning so you must always keep that in mind while dating. What is it you really want? If you want a relationship that consists of you constantly chasing after his attention and affection, then by all means be clingy, needy, and over accommodating, i.e.; desperate. If it's a lasting and mutual loving relationship you want then you must always be true to yourself and know that you have value the way you are, not the way you think he wants you to be.

There are absolutely compromises that need to be made in a relationship, but it should never be of your values or integrity and not during the early stages of dating. If you're willing to do that from the start then you should not expect things to change with time.

So ladies, do yourself and all the rest of us that are dating a favor and raise the bar for men to meet. Don't be so desperate for a man that you'll do anything to get him. Show him that you value yourself and he will too.