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I call myself Bad Mom because at the time I came up with it, I was learning about the assumptions we put behind our words. I was following the pattern of not believing that my kids are okay, and speaking to them from that basis. I changed that, and it made a big difference. I am from Utah and my people are still living there. My husband was in the Air Force and we rattled around until we saw Colorado, and we stuck.

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"The Talk" for Girls
Contributed by: Lisa Arata   on 10/26/2007

Girls, listen here.

You have this wonderful thing called a body. It's going to amaze, astound, and disappoint you at various times.

Most of you will spend substantial amounts of your life wishing you had a different body. The business of comparing yourself to an idealized image is going to drive you just as insane as you let it.

The catalog of what you think looks really good may not have your picture in it.

That in turn will make you feel like hiding. It will possibly stop you from really looking at who you are, instead trying to "get the look" that you see in the magazine. And when you fail to look like the catalog girl, you may give up and go into hiding from yourself and others.

Don't pay attention to the catalog and the magazine, please. Get rid of your full-length mirror for awhile.

Yes, your behind is bigger, your rack is a different shape, your lips are thinner, your nose is funny, you smell weird, and your hair wasn't done by Vidal Sassoon. It's never going to get like the glossy picture. Stop picking yourself apart.

If you don't want to be who you are, then you're going to be focused on who you're not. You're going to attract who you don't want. You'll explore the avenues of where you don't really want to be.

(You can get guys, just be nice, look 'em in the eyes, throw the beanbag back to them when they throw it to you. The catalog analogy still fits--don't try to make a relationship that's like what you've seen in a picture.)

To find someone you really like, first start taking yourself as a whole and not parts, then get over yourself and start doing something in the world.

Then, when you get to that special place with somebody else, if it doesn't work out you've got yourself to go home to.


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Submitted By: Michael Rule
posted on 10/26/2007 @ 8:39:15 PM
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Sometimes being just a simple guy looks pretty good.........
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Lisa Arata has posted 182 blog entries and 282 comments since joining on 4/18/2007. Lisa Arata 's average blog rating is 4.74.
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