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I call myself Bad Mom because at the time I came up with it, I was learning about the assumptions we put behind our words. I was following the pattern of not believing that my kids are okay, and speaking to them from that basis. I changed that, and it made a big difference. I am from Utah and my people are still living there. My husband was in the Air Force and we rattled around until we saw Colorado, and we stuck.

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Two Approaches to Depression
Contributed by: Lisa Arata   on 7/17/2008

I'm feeling good now, like I have a handle on what to do when I feel like I'm failing or I've lost my purpose.

But, this last winter I was depressed, and I don't want to forget it so I can remember how important it is to maintain life and do good things.

I have got a little question in my mind about what's the best way to be when you're depressed. There are two directions you can take it.

One is to listen to your depression. Listen to the things you're saying to yourself, like 'I want to die,' or 'This doesn't mean anything anymore,' and things like that. You start to changethe details in your circumstancesbased on what your soul is fighting to communicate to you, such as letting go of people and activities that aren't right.

The other is to mend your circuits. Start getting the exercise and nutrition you need, listen to great music, be around people who love you, and counteract thoughts of depressing content, such as 'Nobody cares' with thoughts of 'well, the truth is that my mom and my sister care.' And so on.

Both of these approaches are good. When I was feeling depressed, in the depths of the murk, I did listen to my depression and it gave me a feeling of self-respect. I started a small study group and found that others felt like me, and I liked them. I didn't want to do anything to shame, cover up or hide my emotions. I found some gold down in that pit. But I didn't really feel better until I started acting on my own behalf, which is like the latter approach.

I feel so badly for people who can't see a way out of depression except to kill themselves. That kind of relief is really a booby prize, when it's possible to come out of it feeling wiser and stronger, without illusions, and respecting yourself for what you've been able to do.

Right now I think one of the worst problems in our world is that we don't have a hard enough challenge to push offof, and something like a depressive time in life is nature's way of giving us something hard to fight through.


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Lisa Arata has posted 182 blog entries and 282 comments since joining on 4/18/2007. Lisa Arata 's average blog rating is 4.74.
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