Dear "Old Fart":Thanks for the complement. I do try to help retired couples achieve their relationship goals, if I can. Both you and your wife want what many couples want - to support and spend time with their family, and to travel to some wonderful places they didn't have the time or the money to visit while they were raising their own family. When was the last time that you and your wife had a serious conversation about what you really wanted the "second half" of your marriage to look like? Did you tell her that you wanted to travel while you still were physically and financially able? Did she tell you that she will do whatever she can to help her daughter and grandchild. If not, then it's time that you gently initiate this long overdue conversation so that you can prioritize your retirement desires - looking for similarities and agreements, rather than dissension. If your goal is to fight the problem as a united couple rather than fighting each other to get your way, then you both will once again demonstrate your commitment to each other and to your marriage. Best Wishes!