Article Contributed on: 8/9/2006 6:15:51 PM
It's not very often one gets the chance to change the world for the better, so I'm going to take mine - via my modest YourHub.com forum of course.
Even if just a few people actually read this, the movement could snowball if each person tells one friend/co-worker/ex/brother/cousin and then they tell one friend/co-worker/ex/brother/cousin, etc. Kind of likePay it Forward meets
Swingers.
My world-optimizing challenge for the single men of Denver is this: Stop asking girls for their phone numbers if you have no intention of calling. There. It's that simple. I'm not asking you to buy a hybrid or give up football, just stop using our digits as an ego boost or closer.
I don't care what Maxim told you, asking for a girl's phone number is not a polite way of ending a conversation. Try "Nice talking to you" or "See you around." If you're that desperate to stop talking to a girl, do you really think she wants you to feign interest? No! So don't do it.
Honestly, when did asking for more personal information become such a habitual blow-off tool? Only the mind of a man could come up with such an illogical scheme.
I know the breaking of this habit will be hard, so let's go through a practice round. You're at the bar, talking to a girl when you realize you'd rather be chatting up the red head over by the fooseball table.
Panic strikes.
How do you get from Girl A to Girl B? Quick - ask her for her number! That'll end the coversation without making you feel awkward or her dejected! Wrong!
It's simply a convenient out for you. Next time be a man and wrap up the encounter without leading her on.
This next piece of information may be damaging to your ego, so you'll want to sit down. Most women do not sit around waiting for you to call.
Just like we don't actually have pillow fights in our underwear - oops! I just ruined another illusion - the belief that women sit around pining for a guy to call is simply untrue. She might not have been interested in you either. Or she may have learned through experience that most guys who get her number have no intention of calling, and she chalked it up to a routine Saturday night.
My friend,
Jenny, stopped giving men the dialing power and reversed the situation. She refuses to give a guy she meets her phone number, but if she's interested she will ask for his. And she doesn't do it to get an ego boost or blow anyone off either. Men and women could learn from her.
To end the "Why didn't he call?" questions and just to ease our minds, please don't ask us for our phone numbers for the sake of your convenience.
This is your chance to make the world a better place - without donating to
Sally Struthers.