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Contributed by: Jenny Shao on 2/12/2007

Our families and friends regard us as an example of happy marriage. When some of them tried to find out any secrets that keeps our marriage going smoothly, I just shared our love story with them.
Thirty years ago, my husband and I met in high school in Qingdao, China. Qingdao is a beautiful open port city by Yellow Sea on east coast of China, also is famous for the best beer in China. The mix of green mountains, blue sea, oriental and Gothic architectures built during WWI makes the city a desirable place to live. I went to the beach a lot, the colorful and cute shape of changing rooms on the beach for swimmers made me wondering how they stand the erosion of the windy weather. After married many years, I did find the similarity between those rooms and our marriage-the foundation.
As a 16-year-old girl, I dreamed to have an intelligent, sport like, tall and muscular husband, also the one who really cares about me. After I walked into the classroom and found my assigned seat, a very noticeable boy sat behind me. His glasses were broke in the middle of frame and glued together with white medical tape. We said Hi to each other. I was curious about him because we would sit next each other for the rest of two years. Day by day, we knew each other more and more. He was very good at logical such as Math, Physics, Chemistry, but I was interested in language art such as Essay and English. Amazingly, our differences didn't created distance between us but tied us together. We exchanged our ideas and shared our tips about all subjects, studied together before the tests, and went on many fun actives when school was off. After high school, he went to the university in Shanghai while I preferred to attend the college in my hometown. During the college time, we tried to keep in touch by all means though email didn't exist. Four years later, he came back home and moved on his Master degree in the most prestigious Oceanic University in China. We became more mature and got closer. We learned each other not only about school, but also about life experience, altitude, families and future. I always remember what my father once told me that falling is not scary; the scary thing is you don't know how to stand up. As same as other young people, we had ups and downs during the 10-year relationship, but a sincere communication always connected us together again. Ten years later since the year I met him, we got married. He was my sole date and a 27-year-old assistant professor. Now I look back the 31 years we have met and 21 years marriage, thank God, I have got what I dreamed. My husband has worked in a research institution after his PhD. We are still in deep love. An encouraging hit on tennis court, a catch on the slop before I fall, a hand on the hiking trials, and a bowl of hot soup after a long working date, all of these are the elements of maintaining our happy marriage. The points I told my friends who are curious about any secrets of our successful marriage are to decide what kind man you want to spend your life with, build up a strong love foundation before getting marry-durable enough to bear toughness of daily life, be patient and understandable to each other, and share all happiness and difficulties. When conflict or argument rises, back out and calm down then talk. Do not hold anger to sunset. Also, we have kept close by doing activities together such as sports, home project, daily chores, decision-making, etc. Of course, remembering each other's birthday, going on vacations or special celebration are always helpful to renew a happy marriage.
Last, don't' forget to give a kiss and say "love you" before you leave or come back from work. It'll make your love foundation stronger without cost you any thing.

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