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Single men take desperate measures

Contributed by: Sandy Clifton   on 10/16/2006

Now I don't think I am a beauty or a sparkle in many men's eyes but I do get the occasional pick up line. Even when one wears a ring, it doesn't get you off the hook.

When I first started my job, I had a few guys ask if I was married. I think this is the best approach when you're wearing a ring for men to do. You know, instead of the "Hey, baby, you look good" move. I had this one guy ask me three times if I really was indeed married. At the time, I almost wanted to turn and say, "Well this is the third time in a half hour you have asked me. No, I am not married. Wink wink."

Did he think it would change by repeatedly asking? He was a brave soul.

Here are a few of my experiences:

I have been driving in a car and have had the driver in the car next to me try to get me to pull off the road with him. What am I, an idiot? Ok, even if I weren't married, I would never do this. Yes, let me pull off the road with some stranger and exchange numbers and hopefully you won't try to kidnap me.

I remember in high school I was trying to sell my Toyota and I had a for sale sign in the window that happened to have my phone number on it. I got a call on my cell when I was driving on the freeway from a guy who said he was interested in the car. So being all excited I started talking. It turns out it was a guy that thought I was "hot" and he was in the lane to my left. TO MY LEFT I say. As flattered as I was at the time, I thought it was a waste of my minutes. Talk about desperate.

The one move that I hated the most when I was single is the touch the shoulder move. You know, where they are behind you and you can't even see them and they rub your shoulder or caress it or whatever they think they are doing. What is that? That used to creep me out. Guys, don't ever do that. Nothing can get a girl gagging faster then a rub on the back or shoulder from a stranger. It's like, who gave you the right to touch me like that?

Back to the present, I take my dogs to the dog park every weekend to let them stretch their little legs. I have come across probably one of the cleverest moves played out in a bad way. While sitting at the park watching my dogs bark away at random moving objects, a guy sat next to me. Granted, I didn't have my ring on so he probably thought it was ok to sit "that close" to me. What can I say? I forget to wear it on the weekends. Well, as I was sitting there minding my own, he started talking about the dogs and asking me questions with follow up questions about them. OK, like any dog lover I tell him my dog breeds, names, age etc. Come to find out he didn't have a dog there but was in fact trying to pick me up.

If he was a smarter guy, he would of used an excuse of, "I am debating on buying a dog and wanted to get familiar with the breeds." Instead, he came across as some sicko preying on alone women in the dog park. When it dawned on me that he was trying to get a date or a number out of me, I had to tell the guy I was married. This might come as a shocker, but he didn't buy it. He was like, "yeah right you don't have a ring on." I calmly told the guy, "I can still be married and not wear a ring" and he didn't buy that either.

What the heck? OK, I understand the guy was taking a chance to hit on a girl at a dog park, but then when that same girl tells you she's married and you don't buy it? What do you mean you don't buy it? OK, let's say I was lying about being married. Wouldn't that give this guy a clue about maybe I am just not that into you, and that I am actually letting you down easy?

Of course, instead of either of those things dawning on him he actually got angry. He argued with me about not having a ring and how I should always wear one.

What kind of crazy person argues about a person's jewelry? Needless to say, my claws came out and I may have raised my voice on the sicko to get him to leave.

Advice for you men out there, if a girl says she's married or has a bf, ring or no ring, take it for what it is. She's not interested and leave with some dignity.


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Submitted By: Sandy Clifton
posted on 10/20/2006 @ 4:23:18 PM
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Kevin-you should try meetup.com its a social meet up site where you can meet others with similar interests. Its group settings and you might meet someone that way and its free.
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Submitted By: Kevin Murcray
posted on 10/20/2006 @ 2:36:52 PM
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What Ryan said about "the thought of being precieved as some of the dudes you described was what terrified me about approaching a woman when I was single." is true for me too. Except I'm stilll single. This may have something to do with being so terrified of being shot down that I haven't actually approached a woman since...since...oh shoot. I don't remember, it must have been around 1990 or so. Not only do I fear getting shot down, but I see how you women get hassled by men constantly, and I don't want to be part of the problem, either. But as one who never gets approached by the opposite sex, I can tell you that that's no fun, either. But I guess it does beat arguing with someone about your lack of a wedding ring. Sheesh!
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Submitted By: John Zwick
posted on 10/20/2006 @ 11:54:29 AM
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The Onion once said the next in a line of human cybernetic enhancements was a forehead-mounted LED sexual availability indicator. I'm all for it.
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Submitted By: Ryan Hatch
posted on 10/20/2006 @ 9:36:59 AM
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If a woman says she's married or is spoken for than I personally wouldn't argue the point. Nor should any man just randomly rub a woman's shoulders that he doesn't know. I too am all about bounderies and respecting personal space. That said, the thought of being precieved as some of the dudes you described was what terrified me about approaching a woman when I was single. Outside of getting pissed at you for not wearing a ring, I can't fault some of these guys for trying though. Especially the guy who called you on his cell phone in traffic. Personally that takes some balls and while it is kinda sketchy, I still have to tip my hate to the his creativity. From a male perspective, women can be very confusing at times. I can't think of how many times women have sent me mixed signals. You may be a straight shooter but trust me, not all members of your gender are.
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Submitted By: Bill Boucher
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 5:53:08 PM
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Headline Suggestion: A legend in his own mind. ...or: A strong arguement for neuturing.
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Submitted By: Daniel Smith
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 5:50:46 PM
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Good advice. I hope I was never that idiotic when I was single and looking...
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Submitted By: Erin Williams
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 4:23:56 PM
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I was in a martini bar and paying my bill with a credit card, when a guy approached and said "Visa, that's a good card. Can I have your number?" I wasn't sure if he wanted my phone number or the credit card number. Either way, have another, dude.
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Submitted By: Tabitha Dial
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 2:54:24 PM
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Headline suggestions -- Single men: If a lady says she's taken, listen up Ring or no ring, listen to the lady To hit on, or not to hit on ... When will you learn to back off, single men?
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Submitted By: Kevin Villegas
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 2:53:32 PM
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I'm big on wedding rings. They avoid unnecessary confusion.
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Submitted By: Travis Henry
posted on 10/19/2006 @ 2:29:08 PM
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Great posting, but I don't think the "pick-up lines" headline does the story justice. It's not as much about "lines" as it is boneheaded men. Any suggestion for another headline so I can feature it on RockyMountainNews.com?
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Castle Rock , CO

Sandy Clifton has posted 68 blog entries and 148 comments since joining on 1/11/2006. Sandy Clifton 's average blog rating is 4.98.
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