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Camp gives girls skills to reach their potential


New nonprofit promotes self-esteem in young women

The nonprofit Wings to Fly aims to help girls discover their voice to speak how they feel and to have confidence in that voice, said Renie Cavallari, chair of the organization's board of directors.

The four building blocks of life named in the organization's mission statement are emotional, physical, spiritual and financial, Cavallari said.

"When girls have a good sense of confidence in four building blocks, they'll have a good idea about their own empowerment," she said

Wings to Fly focuses on promoting self-esteem in young women because "self-esteem is the core of your being," Cavallari said.

"Those who have high self-esteem have a totally different life experience than those with low self-esteem," Cavallari said.

The organization's inaugural camp was held Aug. 4 to 12 in Breckenridge. Seven girls ages 10 to 12 from all over Colorado, and one from Ohio, participated in the camp.

For many of the girls, the camp was the first time away from for home without their parents, so the group really bonded during the camp because none of them knew one another, said Kris Franklin, executive director of Wings to Fly. Franklin lives near Edgewater, in the Sloan's Lake neighborhood.

"The speakers were flawless, and the girls really blossomed during the week," Franklin said.


Wings to Fly community poem

"Who I am is only determined by me, not by how I look, not the clothes I wear, not my friends, and not the money either my family or I have. Who I am is who I choose to be. To myself to my friends, to my family and to the world I live in."


During the camp, the girls interacted with several professionals who donated their time to speak. The speakers included Dr. Linda Lister, a psychologist from Lakewood who is an expert on adolescent girl topics; Dianne Koehler, a herbalist and nutritionist; and Rebecca Haskell, a former high jump Olympic athlete.

Lister, who is also on the board of directors for Wings to Fly, said she got involved with the organization because it is directed at all girls, not just certain populations.

"All girls need this kind of skill-building and information," she said.

Lister spoke to the girls about financial literacy and prompted them to think about financial goals. She described her session with the group as brimming with "good, positive energy."

"They were exceptionally attentive, very curious and interesting girls," Lister said.

The girls asked Lister about her career, and two of the girls expressed interest in becoming psychologists, so Lister also fielded questions on career paths.

Cavallari, who lives in Arizona, said she is "exhilarated" to finally see her dream of the camp come true. Although Cavallari owns her own consulting company, Aspire Marketing, and is kept plenty busy raising her 5-year-old daughter, her vision of the camp is something she has held on to for years.

When Cavallari met Franklin, both of them drew on their backgrounds to create the framework for Wings to Fly.

"Growing up, I was taught to really believe in myself," Cavallari said. "I didn't know at the time what an incredible gift that was. (Wings to Fly) is my chance to give back."

Franklin said she was drawn to the idea behind Wings To Fly because she could have benefited from such a program when she was growing up. Working in the modeling industry for 15 years taught her how vital self-esteem is, she said.

"It's a harsh industry, where people are taught to define themselves by how they look," she said. "It looks so glamorous, but most of the models I met were very insecure."

To promote a life-long learning experience, camp activities are designed to be "fun with purpose." For instance, throughout the week the girls are given stones as rewards, which they make into a necklace at the end of camp.

"Each stone represents something they did that week," Franklin said. "They can say, 'This one is from when I was a friend to someone, this one is from when I showed courage on the ropes course.'"

Cavallari added, "The cool thing about the necklaces is they tell the story of camp. When you create pride at a young age, it builds positive self-esteem."

Another aspect of the camp is each girl receives "camp dollars" which they have to manage throughout the week. This activity allows the girls to make their own financial decisions. They have the choice to spend, save or give back, just as they would in real life, Cavallari said.

In order to be selected for Wing to Fly, both the girl and a parent or primary caregiver have to complete an application and essay. The primary caregiver has to commit to being involved with the girl's growing process, even after camp ends.

Follow-up phone coaching for parents is included with the camp tuition to ensure the camp's lessons continue at home.

"This is a learning process for the parents or primary caregivers as well," Franklin said. "They learn how to support the girl on her journey and how to promote doing things that are good for her self-esteem."

Over the course of the camp, the girls became a close-knit group, so saying good-bye was a tearful experience, Franklin said. However, a secure blog is being built on the organization's Web site so girls can stay in touch . Also, the girls will reconvene in February to pack medical supplies for Project Cure.

Wings to Fly is funded through private donations. The 2007 camp was funded by Roger and Dee Dee Parker, of Cherry Hills, who gave scholarships for all the girls to attend.

"Roger has two young daughters and grew up with sisters, so he is very in tune with girls' issues," Franklin said.

Wings To Fly plans to hold six camps next year, four in Colorado and two in Arizona. For more information, visit www.wingstofly.info.


Camp reflections

Feedback from camp participants:

"U rock." -- Ariel Gorskey, 10, of Denver

"Thank you for the opportunity to send my daughter to such a wonderful camp." -- Terri Gorskey, Ariel's mom

"Thank you times 10,000,000! The best experience EVA!" -- Nishann Miller, 12, Arvada

"As a parent, belief is everything. We are so appreciative of the gift of allowing our daughter to solo flight a short distance, yet to see the expansive sky which awaits the rest of her journey in life." Lendaria and Kevin Miller, Nishann's parents

"I had the time of my life. Thank you." -- Claire O'Donnell McCarthy, 12, of Mentor, Ohio

"Thank you soooo much." -- Dayna Otte, 10, Centennial

"Thank you - it is a life-changing experience." Margy Otte, Dayna's mom


Wings to Fly empowers girls with positive direction

By Linda Lister

Girls, in particular, are at risk for internalizing disorders as a result of low self-esteem, peer rejection and anxiety issues. From 1995 to 1996, I conducted a study of contributing factors for girls' popularity and self-esteem. The girls were in grades 3 to 8. In identifying indicators of popularity among girls, the study revealed some changes that seem to have come about in view of the changing role of women in our society.

For example, assertion emerges as an important contributor to a girl's popularity (in contrast to the value placed on cooperation in earlier times). Assertion is personified by a girl who expresses her opinions and stands up for her rights and the rights of others. Girls can be coached to communicate without undue anxiety and to relate to each other in a socially acceptable, non-aggressive, noncoercive manner.

I have worked with students and their families for 30 years as a teacher, educational consultant and psychologist in a private practice in Lakewood. Assessment, peer relationships and empowerment are three of my specialties. I have been published in magazines and have a book for Independent School Administrators. I was also trained in economic literacy for girls by Independent Means.

I joined Wings to Fly as a board member as a result of the incredible positive energy, mission and knowledge base that Kris Franklin and Renie Cavallari provide. Wings to Fly attacks positive energy and direction for the girls and the adults involved.

Dr. Linda Lister received her Ph.D. from the University of Denver and attended Yale University and Millsaps College for her undergraduate work.

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