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Blog Entry 155 of 175 Suburban Dementia
Expect me to write about the convergence of random events, the persistence of memory (Dali's melting version), juxtaposition of opposites, the phenomena of unintended consequences, and the mundane details of my life. Mostly, I expound on the absurdities of life in general, but the suburbs in particular.

The Judy rule
Contributed by: Karin Malchow   on 4/24/2008

Titled for a long-time friend/practitioner, the Judy Rule is Ghandi-esque in its wisdom and simplicity. You may already follow it without knowing its true name.

Talk to everyone you know about a seemingly insurmountable problem, and someone, offering a fresh perspective, will set you on the path to a solution.

The Judy Rule could potentially be internet-bulletin-board expanded; while useful, that extrapolation lacks the personal touch. Combining the benefits of collective experience with social interaction, problem-solving with emotional unburdening; it just doesn't get any better.

I suppose some people might object to sounding board status; they're probably just crabby about their own problems they haven't unloaded. Reciprocity is implied in the Judy Rule.

Here's an example of effectively using the Judy Rule.

A young woman purchased her first house. She knew it qualified as a fixer-upper, considering the price and long professional inspection to-do list. Fielding commentary about the mixed blessing of homeownership, she gave neutral, noncommittal responses, invoking the separation of employment and home likely intended in the Constitution.

One day there was some lag time before a meeting. When inevitably asked about domicile progress, she uncharacteristically blurted her latest problem.

"My dryer takes forever since the move. It's ten years old, but it worked fine at the rental."

Speculation ensued. Did she witness rough handling by movers? Was there a rattle or squeal? Could the washer be the guilty party, failing to spin excess water? Was the plug completely inserted? Any strange smells? Capable handyman referrals filled the air, attached with the warning all were at least six weeks out. Others averred repair after a decade was hardly cost-efficient.

Then someone said, "Did your inspector examine the dryer vent? If it's clogged, the dryer motor will burn out soon. That's what happened to me."

The light bulb ignited over her head. Could the least expensive alternative be possible? Returning home, she discovered the once-vacant house could have hung an Occupied sign over the dryer's exhaust exit. Lint is excellent nesting material for small creatures, which sometimes see no need moving it to another location. After a broomstick and shop vac, the dryer was saved.

If only life was always so easy. Still, applying the Judy Rule can't hurt.




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Submitted By: Gladys Mercier
posted on 4/28/2008 @ 7:21:57 PM
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Sounds like Tom has it right.
Submitted By: Kim Price
posted on 4/27/2008 @ 6:13:02 PM
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I, like Stan, will wander for hours before stopping to ask directions. Hmmmm
Submitted By: Michael Rule
posted on 4/27/2008 @ 8:19:30 AM
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I'm am sitting here in front of my trashed out desk waiting for Judy.....
Submitted By: Barbara Neff
posted on 4/26/2008 @ 10:05:10 AM
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The Judy Rule definitely works for me and I have learned to use it in the right places, such as when I am among those whose words I have learned to trust. I think Stan is right. We women actually seek information and advice and know how to pan for the gold.
Submitted By: Katherine Jerome
posted on 4/26/2008 @ 9:15:15 AM
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Having applied the Judy Rule many times in my life, I know it works. Up until now, though, I thought it was just griping.
Submitted By: Stan Dyer
posted on 4/26/2008 @ 1:50:52 AM
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The "Judy Rule" is a good name for it because it works better for women. In men, the same gene that prevents them from asking directions no matter how lost they become interferes and a man will ponder the solution on his own for years just as he would wander the desert in search of a campground.
Submitted By: Wendy Bellinger
posted on 4/25/2008 @ 2:21:50 PM
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It's amazing, but this does work. Just put it out there and someone who knows someone will turn up, sometimes magically, who can solve your problem. It's re-e-e-al Ghandi-esque, but, hey, if the universe likes it, and we get solutions, what's not to like?
Submitted By: Nikki Britain
posted on 4/25/2008 @ 5:45:55 AM
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Sometimes a good friend who will just sit back and listen to you complain, is just what the doctor ordered. An even better friend is one who comes over with wine and nibbles to do so.
Submitted By: Bill Boucher
posted on 4/24/2008 @ 6:36:08 PM
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I also live under a Judy rule, only mine involves a toilet seat.
Submitted By: Gail Kirkegaard
posted on 4/24/2008 @ 5:14:57 PM
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It works! During child raising I had help via the Judy rule a few times.
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Karin Malchow

Lone Tree , CO

Karin Malchow has posted 175 blog entries and 1105 comments since joining on 9/14/2005. Karin Malchow 's average blog rating is 5.
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