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I wanted a place where parents could share information that they know is correct,without the spin. Parents today are faced with alot of different problems.Working,raising children,dealing with schools,(don't get me started),scheduling parenting and working.A place also where stay at home moms ( like me) can share their views,(yes we do have brains)and help each other and working parents whether they be single moms or dads or 2 parent working households. We all have a stake in the way our children are raised,the way the schools are teaching or not teaching,what's going on in our neighborhoods,what is important for your city,county,state and country. Let's stop tuning out and tuning in to what we want for our children's future.What we want for our families,our friends,our neighborhoods and ourselves. Parenting can be the most rewarding,frustrating,scariest,hardest and blessed thing that has ever happened to parents today. We face more challenges than our parents and their parents before them. I taught Preschool for 15 years and was a nanny for 3 before deciding to start my family.I waited until my husband and I could afford for me to stay home and raise them.I have been married for 25 years this May and with my husband for 29 years.I have 2 children one in 2nd grade and one in 5th.What I want out of life is to raise two great girls into strong women.I have taken care of children all my life.That is what I was put on this earth to do.I have done it well.Children are the best.

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Children deserve respect, too

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Contributed by: Tracey Fanning on 1/22/2008

I was dropping of my 5th grader's International Baccalaureate application off at Century Middle School last week. I was excited because I finally got all the paper work done.

I dropped off the application in the office and as I was leaving a young man opened the door for me and I said thank you. I was thinking, "What a well-mannered young person."

I asked him how he liked Century Middle School and he replied,"I hate it."

I asked him why and he said he felt that he didn't get the respect he deserves from the teachers. I told him to respect yourself first then you can try to get these teachers to respect you. I then told him life isn't always fair and for him to make the most out of school he could and make the best of it.

This got me to thinking. I could really feel for that boy. My daughter has been disrespected by teachers. They try to teach respect in schools, but do the teachers give each child the respect they deserve?

There is still a atmosphere of favorites being played in school classrooms. I have two examples. My oldest is cute and a perfectly behaved child . She has breezed through school and always is singled out for special awards,assignments,asked to help teachers before or after school etc... My youngest has always been knocked down, talked to at a different level than the favorites, called on last and outright disrespected.

Do teachers think children can't see these things? Do they think kids are so stupid they can't see them treating the perfect child differently? My youngest is picked on because I went over the teachers head and told the administration that her comment "I am only going to teach the book" was unacceptable to me and a disservice to my daughter who was in 2nd grade, reading at a 5th grade level,at a 3rd-4th grade Math level and could outspell my 5th grader.

So she has to give my child a more challenging out of the book curriculum. For that, she treats my daughter different. My daughter knows when she is being disrespected. My daughter knows when the teacher is playing favorites. My daughter knows the tone of voice that the teacher has for her is different than the tone applied to others.

How do we teach respect for teachers, when teachers disrepect our children?

I have told my daughters no matter what a teacher says to you, if you think it's not right or fair wait until you get home and discuss it with your dad and me. Do not disrespect the teacher. We will deal with it as a family and bring it to the attention of the administration if it is called for. I tell them don't sweat the small stuff.

I do believe teachers treat children differently in their classrooms and the kids are fully aware of it. I tell my kids you are always going to come across teachers that are not as respectful as you want them to be, but it is your job to be respectful and have respect for yourself,that will get you through it.

Do our young children have to go through this at such young ages?

Teachers take note: What you do and what you say affect the children in your care. If you can't treat them all with respect, then it's time to get out of the classroom.

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Submitted By: Gerry Benner

posted on 2/6/2008 @ 6:02:44 AM

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Excellent!! We teach our children love and respect; and expect a positive and supportive environment. Not all children can deal with the belittling and disrespect that comes from others. They become demotivated, and they often hate school (due to its culture, not its oppurtunities). Sure wish everyone involved could learn to show love and respect to our children (and grandchildren), who are now in the hands of the school system. Otherwise we'll need Coping Skills classes taught in elementary school.

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