Are men any less complex or easier to understand than women? Men are often described as heroes, warriors, protectors, guardian angels, best friends, providers, beasts, demons, large children and egotists. Can those many personalities and qualities fit into one being without creating complexities? Do women really know and understand men? Is it the design of women to change men to suit their needs? Do men see women solely for the service and sexual pleasures they can offer? Every woman would do well to fully explorethe male phenomenon, learn the truths of men, gain insight into life in their element and scrutinize the male/female dynamic.

Women and men usually hold a different interpretation of 'male'. However, there are certain realities that bring them closer than one might believe. Yes, they view life a little differently and their sexual experiences are in contrast, but men come just as preprogrammed as women, with just as many needs and issues and are often more vulnerable. Men generally tend to be concrete, pragmatic, harbor a whimsical spirit and unlike their female counterparts don't instinctively equate love with sex. They often do carry a touch of male ego to accompany their more serious roles and at any given moment in time can present as Sir Galahad, Peter Pan, or Captain Hook. That isn't a case of multiple personalities, is it simply men being male?

Women often see men through their own design and tend to size them up for their potential rather than accept their realities. They train, change and under other false pretenses, manipulate men to get the results they demand. Men are pre programmed to respond and have little choice but to conform. There are instinctive qualities and characteristics however, that are not likely to be erased as they comply and accept their newly appointed role. The need for sports, toys and male bonding are an intrinsic part of their reality and will remain in tact; it's a man thing. Those gifts of release offer compensation for the level of responsibility they are expected assume. All work and no play do create a rather dark environment.

The man dreams are made of is not one of custom design but comes in his truest form of self. He is genuine, complex, and male. He is not easily persuaded by female displays of weakness, dominance, emotion or cooking talent but is impressed by intelligence, independence and the ability to appreciate and accept the complex truths of life and the male/female dynamic. It would make sense then for women to know and understand men, learn to speak their language and be willing to accept them on an 'as is' basis. It is always wise to make choices based on facts rather than hopes and dreams, for in real life, there are no magic formulas for turning the frog into a prince.