In my experience I have come across people who devote more of their time to school or work and than they do to socialization. This is not appalling to me simply because demands take priority over preferences.
This is not always the case, but the more intent a person is on fulfilling requirements, the less time they will spend chit-chatting.
Interestingly enough, almost 60% of people claim that their friendships are more important to them than career, money or family, according to http://www.guardian .co.uk. Friends, it seems, are important, but then why are we not more often motivated to make acquaintances?
Motivation comes from the promise of gratification, and friends provide more than just pleasurable companionship. They also provide comfort, acceptance, and understanding. They even contribute to better health. Unfortunately, socialization is a human necessity that is often overlooked.
There are always people I see every day and don't talk to. When I'm riding the bus to school in the morning, I'm listening to headphones, and so are ten other people. It is dark, it is cold, and the overall atmosphere is sluggish. Still, our brains should be urging us to socialize.
Instead, you have five or so people fraternizing with the person next to them, and the rest have their minds on something else. They are concentrating on things they need to do during the day, or they are thinking about what fun things they can do later that day - never with any interruption, never with any cause to socialize.
Socialization does not always imply face-to-face conversation. Text messaging is very handy for keeping track of what your friends are doing minute-by-minute because it's very speedy, and it's not as intrusive as making a phone call. It gives the recipient time to respond at their leisure.
Also, it's comforting to know friends will always be there, and they are just one text away. "Even if you cannot hear my voice, I'll be right beside you dear,"
Snow Patrol. In a sense, people who text are
not isolated, but they can remain distant for eternity and completely forget the value of direct conversation.
During the day, our work demands more punctuality than our social life. Trying to finish a project on-time can cause preoccupation and stress.
Discussing issues with others sometimes gets in the way because it's better to actually do things than talk about doing things you're going to get around to doing.
It is logical to keep distractions to a minimum, yet busy people are at risk of sinking into the vat of loneliness. If that is not enough inspiration to call you to action, feast on this knowledge: According to Psychology Today, it is easier to meet the varied challenges of life once the need of socialization is fulfilled. By socializing, you will not only combat loneliness, but you will succeed in school as well.
Loneliness, a word of very negative connotations, describes the situation at hand most accurately because no matter how satisfying isolation proves, everybody needs friends.
It doesn't matter what kind of person you are: independent, companionable, outgoing, or shy. Though unconscious, our decision whether or not to socialize determines our well-being to a great extent. Try not to forget about it when life gets hectic.